The Single Life…Enjoying the Journey

As a single woman going on 30 it can be so hard to wait for God to bring my husband into my life.  Some days I feel like there must be something wrong with me, or that I should just settle for whatever I can get, or that I must work harder at being more attractive or whatever. Some days these thoughts (aka LIES) plague my mind and bring out the insecurities in me. Lately God has been speaking to my heart of my worth and the plan He has for my life. He has been showing me what kind of man I am waiting for.

Do not settle. I know how hard it can be when you go home from a tough day at work and there’s no one there to just “be” with. I understand wanting a pair of loving arms to sob into when you are sad or broken. You are allowed to want a husband/wife, you are allowed to desire to be married.

Ps. 37:4 “Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.” God gives us the desires of our hearts because He created us and placed those desires inside of us.  Psalm 139 says that God formed us in the secret place, He formed our INWARD parts. He placed inside of us longings and desires, dreams, gifts, talents, skills, personalities…He created us with a need to love and receive love. He gave me a desire to be married and I know He will bring a studly, crazy Jesus lovin man into my life when it’s the right time.

God has a husband or wife for you that will be 100x better than what you can imagine…a spouse that will be your perfect match…a man or woman who will love you and draw you closer to Jesus in his love for you…

Proverbs 4:23 Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.” Your heart is important…be careful who you give it to. Marriage was meant to be a one time deal…forever united is a long time. A few years ago I was dating a guy I was convinced I was meant to be with and we talked about marriage quite a bit. Needless to say, us being married would have been a mess and both of us would have been miserable and resentful if we had gotten married. I want to give my heart to a man who will cherish, adore, comfort, edify, lead me closer to Jesus, encourage and compliment my gifts and the calling on my life…and I want to be a wife that can do the same for him. Don’t settle for the guy, “you could live with” but wait for the guy you cannot wait to do life with! Don’t believe the lie that I keep hearing single girls say, “all the good guys are taken”…they’re not. They exist and God has one for you!

 What you can do in the meantime:
1. Draw closer to Christ…He is our ultimate source of love and acceptance. Submerge your heart in His adoration, affection, and love.
2. Learn to be a good communicator and listener (I highly recommend Keep Your Love On by Danny Silk). Healthy communication is key for a good marriage (from what I hear)
3. Learn to be good with money and a good steward of your finances (working on this one right now myself)
4. Enjoy the single life! You have this time to enjoy being able to do what you want!
5. Get to really know yourself…being single allows you time to discover yourself and allow Jesus to affirm you in who He created you to be. Find out who you are outside of a relationship so when you are in a relationship you are already aware of who you are and can still be your own person.
Enjoy the journey, enjoy the process. Enjoy this time that you have to get to know the Father deeply, time to experience new things, dream new dreams…

Your heart is more valuable than you know.

Believe that.


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